I only have myself to blame. My daughter's incessant talk about what she's going to eat for breakfast, lunch, dinner, and snacks; what exercises she's going to do, etc. Day in and day out for the last two years.
"Just stop talking about it!" I want to scream at her but I don't. Why? Because she's only using her voice for the daily thoughts swirling around in my head and through my actions for most of her life.
Ironically it hasn't always been like this. In her tween years my daughter used to carry her curves with a PHAT (pretty hot & thick) attitude! Frankly, not only did I love it, I admired it, wishing I had the confidence to carry my own curves like that. Instead, I was always trying to "fix" my body, speaking mainly about what was wrong with me instead of what was right.
Today, I see my obsession in my daughter. She wants a flatter stomach, trimmer thighs, toned arms--a.k.a. the perfect body. And its all my fault. So far it's been the last two years that she's been working at losing weight but if she's like me--not wanting to make the necessary sacrifices to achieve the wanted results--she's got an even longer road ahead of her.
While I'm glad that my daughter, and son for that matter, have learned about the importance of healthy eating and exercise--we incorporate it in our family life--I regret my daughter's obsession with transforming her body. I see her road being just as long as mine, but I hope I'm wrong.
So what do I do at this point in her life? Encourage and support her is all. Keep healthy food in the home. Be her workout buddy when she asks. Advise her to focus on health benefits as opposed to appearance. Compliment her often, curves and all.
Any advise? How are you helping your weight loss obsessed child/teen?
LaCharmine (L.A.) Jefferson
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20 years is far too long to be singing the "whoa is me" song about the body that I want and only I can create. 2015 is the year to shut up or put up!
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